Mma passed way last week. We buried her this past Saturday. We held the funeral service at home in Phokeng; attended by hundreds of mourners including former students in a career spanning 43 years, her friends, neighbours, former colleagues, members of her professional associations and relatives.
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| Mma & my younger bro on her 75th birthday this April |
Her passing was unexpected for me, because even though she was sick for a long time, she didn't seem to have gotten worse and I thought we would manage her chronic conditions for many more years.
She had a lot of energy the weeks before her passing. Then suddenly she was very poorly and I called medical emergency people, but she was gone by the time they arrived.
Emotionally, I'm not dealing with it yet. It was easier for me to focus on the practical aspects of the loss because then I have something to do and I spent the past week working with my siblings to plan and project manage the funeral service, with a number of smaller events inbetween (church services, memorial service etc). Now that that's done, I'm working on the next step. It's probably going to involve a lot of writing, though there will be other things too.
5 comments:
Oh Damaria, I am so sorry. My heart is so sad for you. I hope that in time you can sort through your emotions. I would do the same as you, just try to cope with life and not examine the painful emotions. She was obviously a well-loved and respected woman, and she brought you into the world, which is clearly an achievement in itself, as you are such a strong and succesful woman.
I am sorry to hear of your loss. May you have only fond memories. P. Nhlapo
My sincere condolences, Damaria. I know your Mma was suffering for a while, but as always death takes us by surprise. Wishing you strength and grace as you cope with you loss. ♥
Damaria. I just happened to arrive at your blog today
by chance - and read of your mother's passing. I just wanted to offer my condolences to you during this difficult time. How blessed she was to have been so loved, and what a deep hole she must have left behind. It can be so hard when someone so,loved leaves so suddenly. Take very good care of yourself, and take the time to grieve too, dear Damaria. With love Susan Davies
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@Po- I could almost feel the hug coming from your words. Thank you.
@Petro - I DO. Thanks.
@ Corinne - She WAS suffering and it was so hard to see. Yet, I still didn't expect her to go then. It felt abrupt.
@Susan - So lovely to hear from you, though I wish you'd found my circumstances better. Let's not do this again..I hope next time we communicate we have happier news to share or something:)
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