I did have a surreal creative moment while taking a bath this morning: There is a lot that is said by / about victims and their families ( and rightly so!), but very little is said about the experiences of the families of the perpetrators.
- How do you come to terms with the fact that your husband/father/son killed someone /raped someone?
- How do you reconcile the love you feel/felt for them with their actions?
- How do you go out each day and face your neighbours, friends, employers and employees, when it has emerged that your son is a killer?
Laura at Harassedmom touched on the issue recently, talking about the Brett Kebble murder trial. In her post, she questions why the wife/girlfriend of Michael Schutlz, the man who was paid to kill Kebble, is standing by him.
"It bothers me that this women condones this behaviour by standing by him. I know I am judging her but honestly I can not possible think of how she justifies this in her mind."
My feelings were messy at the time, because I would not make the choice the wife was making, but I also felt that I could not judge the wife for her choices. But now, I understand Schultz's wife a bit. I still don't agree with her choices, but I have a better understanding of the multiple identities of people who do terrible things like murder.
Anyhoo, I'm hoping that another writer could explore the idea further, see if it can fly. I still have a lot of work to get through, and as I mentioned before, sometimes I feel like I've opened an ideas factory.